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       “ I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights."

~Maya Angelou
October 2014
Volume 19 Issue 3
Kaity's Korner 2
Opening the Gates
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Great People Doing Great Things.....

In the last edition of Kaity's Korner we had a brief article about the Rapaports support of Kaity's Way and wanted to expand further how and what they are doing to support Kaity's Way and other organizations through their own successes.

Dawn Marie and Michael Rapaport531373_400805479983677_906195292_n 2 make up the Rapaport Team with West USA Realty (include city and state). Kaity's Way came to know them through the Arrowhead Kiwanis Club and they epitomize the word team both professionally and personally. In 2010 & 2011 they received an Award for Excellence (from who) and fell within the Top 1% of Producing Agents in Arizona.

On a personal level, they have been together a over ten years and enjoy their lives together as partners. The Rapaports have a lot in common such as they are both driven to help other people on a multitude of levels. Besides supporting Kaity's Way and the Arrowhead Kiwanis Club, they facilitate and organize back to school drives and collect items for the homeless for distribution. They dedicate several hours a month working on charitable service projects and enjoy working together to make a positive difference in the lives of others.

According to Dawn Marie, "The reason we are very successful in the things we do is because of our faith and belief in God. We believe what we do for others and the community, is what we are suppose to do and  for that we are rewarded enabling us to create cycle of giving back." This is certainly one cycle we do not want to break.

Most recently the Rapaports created yet another way to give back to the community through organizations like Kaity's Way and the Arrowhead Kiwanis club, by organizing a referral program.This is a win-win for all everyone because of its simplicity and ease of effort.

It pretty much goes like this; If you are in the market to buy or sell a house, call the Rapaport Team (main number (602) 620 2958) and let them know you were referred by Kaity's Way. They will make note of that and when the real estate transaction is complete they will donate $1,500 of their commission to Kaity's Way.
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A donation such as this for Kaity's Way funds approximately ten (10) presentations within Maricopa county. This in turn means that approximately 950 student and/or members of the community can be educated and received important literature and data to understand the importance of healthy relationship and become aware of the very prevalent issue of teen dating violence and how to avoid an abusive relationship. Given that we have done nearly 100 presentation already this year alone, it is such a wonderful relief to have this support from the Rapaports.

Thank you Michael and Dawn Marie your gift to the community is honorable and truly appreciated!

In the market to buy or sell a house call the Rapaport Team and tell them Kaity's Way referred you!


Are You Being Emotionally Abused?            

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Evelyn MacInnes

When people talk about abuse in relationships our first natural assumption might be to think of physical abuse. But unfortunately there are many other types of abuse that, unlike physical violence, do not leave obvious marks. Statistics reveal that 36% of women over 15 who took part in a survey had experienced emotional abuse in a relationship and the effects of this are are just as devastating to the victim as physical abuse. In fact emotional health coach Maria Bogdanos suggests emotional abuse can be more harmful as it undermines how we think about ourselves, making us define ourselves by believing things that aren't true and ultimately damaging our self esteem. Emotional abuse can be hard to define and because abusers are often subtle in their ways of maintaining control, many victims might not even be aware that they are even being abused. If you feel vulnerable or uncertain about your relationship here are some things that you should ask yourself.

Do you feel isolated?
Many emotional abusers want you all to themselves.1000789125 They do not want you to have a life outside of the relationship and may try to stop you from seeing friends and family, going out without them or even going to work. Because abusers crave control over their victims, any sign of them having independence or support networks worries them so they seek to isolate you from the outside world. It is healthy for both of you to have time apart and pursue individual interests so if you are 'punished' or made to feel guilty for having time away from your partner then this should ring alarm bells.

Are you afraid?
Fear should not be part of a healthy relationship. If you feel intimidated in any way by your partner then it is a clear sign that something is wrong. Sometimes victims are afraid of violence or aggression but in other cases abusers may use power tactics such as withholding affection or threatening to leave in order to frighten and upset their partner. They may have unrealistic expectations that you are punished for if you do not meet or they may try and blame you for trivial, unreasonable things that they have contrived in their own mind. All of this is designed to cause the sufferer anxiety; if you fear them then they are able to control you.

Is your partner an addict?
Not all abusers are addicts, but Dr Howard Samuels does suggest that many abusive relationships are accompanied by addiction. Being close to someone who is an addict can be a turbulent and harrowing experience. Their behavior may be erratic, they might try to force you to help them get their fix and they certainly will not be in a position to offer love, support or even make basic considerations of a partner when they are barely able to consider their own needs outside of feeding their addiction. For the partners of those suffering from addiction it can seem like the ultimate betrayal to walk away from them when they are, in essence, in the midst of a disease, but it is important to consider your own well-being and recognize that being close to them can sometimes mean becoming an enabler. The best thing you can do is take a step back and look for professional recovery programs to help.

Do you feel confident?
If your partner ridicules you, calls you names, humiliates you or constantly reminds you of your shortcomings then there is a strong possibility that they are trying to diminish your self esteem. Making you feel less of a person not only makes them feel powerful but it makes you feel as though you are lucky to have them - or even that you need them to get by. This goes hand in hand with isolation techniques and you may find that they also try to mock your ambitions and go out of their way to foil any attempts you make at independent success. In a healthy relationship partners should encourage each other to strive to better themselves. An abuser will strive to make you feel less than what you are in order to keep control over you. They do not want you to be confident, assertive or successful - they want you to be submissive towards them.

Are you in control of your life?
Do you feel like you control your own life and are your own person or are you merely an 1001062641extension of your partner? Are you able to make your own life choices or do you need to ask for permission? As we have seen, abusers use many of the techniques above in an attempt to control their partners, so if you feel out of control and unable to steer your own life then there are clearly issues in the relationship.
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Kaity's Way is always looking for dedicated volunteers to help with various projects and events throughout the year. You can fill out and submit a volunteer application on line by clicking on the following link Volunteer Application.

 

Ideas on how you can help.......

 

Help us Bring Awareness

 

Are you a member of a PTA, PTO, PTSO or any group or organization that involves the welfare of children? If so, consider suggesting Kaity's Way speak at one of the meetings to bring awareness to Teen Dating Violence as well as the need for Education in our schools.

 

Are you on Facebook or Twitter? Friend or follow us and when you see a posting or tweet from us SHARE for all of your friends.


Talk about us to anyone and everyone. If you would like brochures to have on hand, please let us know and we will get some to you.

 

Fundraising


Beginning August 1, 2014 Kaity's Way volunteers, participants and supporters can enroll or re-enroll their Fry’s V.I.P . Cards online at their secure website www.FrysCommunityRewards.com . As of September 1, 2014, another cycle of giving begins. Every time an enrolled participant shops at Fry’s using his or her registered Fry’s V.I.P. Card, Kaity's Way will earn funds. The card holders will still get their fuel points. 

How cool and easy is that!?!

Follow the instructions below to get started.......
PLEASE NOTE: Before you can link your Fry’s V.I.P card to
Kaity's Way, you must have an email address.

STEP 1: Creating an Online Fry’s Account
 **NOTE: If you already have an online Fry’s account, skip to #2
  • Go to www.FrysCommunityRewards.com
  • Select ‘Create an Account’.
  • Under Sign-In information, enter your email and create a password. (Write down your email & password—will need it in step 2)
  • Select ‘Use Card Number’. *Enter your Fry’s V.I.P Card Number, last name and postal code.
  • Under ‘Select Your Preferred Store’ enter your postal code.
  • Select ‘Find Stores’.
  • Choose your store then select ‘Create Account’. *You will then be prompted to check your email for a confirmation email. Click the hyperlink in your email to finish creating your Online Fry’s Account. Continue to step #2 to register for the Fry’s Community Rewards Program of your choice.

STEP 2: Register for the Fry’s Community Rewards Program
  • Go to www.FrysCommunityRewards.com
  • Select ‘Sign-In’.
  • Enter your email and password then select ‘sign in’. (This will be the email and password you created in step 1)
  • Select ‘My Account then select ‘Account Settings’ from drop down menu.
  • Click ‘edit’ under Community Rewards. If prompted, enter personal information.
  • Under Find Your Organization: Enter the NPO number 80082 or name of organization Kaity's Way then select ‘search’.
  • Under Select Your Organization: Select box next to your organization
  • Then select ‘save changes’.
  • If you have registered correctly, you should now see your organization information listed under ‘Community Rewards’ on your Account Summary page.

Another opportunity and one of the simplest ways to raise funds for Kaity's Way only takes the stroke of a key. Just start using Yahoo! powered GoodSearch.com as your search engine, select Kaity's Way and they'll donate a penny to Kaity's Way every time you do a search! They also have several other online opportunities to raise money for Kaity's Way by shopping, playing games, participating in surveys, booking online travel. For each transaction a percentage of the purchase will go to Kaity's Way


The web site is http://www.goodsearch.com. You can also read about GoodSearch in the NY Times, Oprah Magazine, CNN, ABC News and the Wall Street Journal.


Have a Home Party to raise funds for Kaity's Way. Many businesses, such as, True North Gold, Tupperware, Beauticontrol, Pampered Chef, CandleLite, Miche Bag and Cookie Lee have programs to fund raise for non-profit organizations. This is a fun way to get together with your friends and support a great cause.  


Conduct a used cell phone drive or recycle used ink cartridges from printers or copiers at your place of employment or with your friends and family. If interested give us a call and we will get you the supplies you need to set up.


 Amazon gives customers the option to select a non profit to receive .5% of any purchase upon checkout. At Smile.Amazon.com You can select Kaity's Way and shop away.



If you work for one of the following businesses you can choose to donate straight out your paycheck to Kaity's Way?
  • APS dc 59768
  • Salt River Corporation
  • State of Arizona
  • American Express
For every dollar donated to Kaity's Way a member of the community receives all the literature and data needed to understand the issue of teen dating violence and the importance of healthy relationships. So if you work for either one of these companies or know someone who does, please consider Kaity's Way the next time open enrollment comes around.





Kaity's Way Board Members

 

Susan Guinn-Lahm, MA, CRC, LPC

Past Board Chair

Susan is a native of Ajo, AZ where she works as the Lead Behavioral Health Clinician at Desert Senita Community Health Center (DSCHC).  Susan provides general mental health counseling services, specializing in patients behavioral changes to compliment their medical treatment.

 


KellyAnn Bonnell

Board Chair

KellyAnn is a modern renaissance woman. She is a published author, an accomplished costume designer and is considered an expert in arts education. She is currently the Education & Outreach Director for Infinite Spectrum Productions where she oversees educational and mission driven projects for the company. She is listed on the Consultant Roster for the Arizona Commission on the Arts and was a 2011 nominee for the Arizona Governor's Arts Awards in Arts Education.


Ric Sudberry

Board Treasurer

Ric is the father of five children, PauPau to six grandchildren and a devoted husband. He served six years in the US Air Force as a Medical Technician.  Ric has an associates degree in accounting and currently works full time as an Assistant Store Manager at Home Depot in Phoenix, AZ. He enjoys spending time with his family, especially the grandchildren, he is an avid reader, watching football (Go Steelers!) and traveling.

 

Brandy Aguilar

Board Member

Brandy loves to tell stories. She is the Executive Producer/Multimedia Journalist for Health2Fit television show and website. Brandy has more than 15 years of newsroom experience. She covers all kinds of stories from weight loss, and sports health to the latest medical breakthroughs in Arizona and around the country. Brandy earned her degree in broadcast journalism from the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism and Mass Communication at Arizona State University. When not busy telling stories, she spends time with her family, travels, hikes, plays tennis and loves going to sporting events/concerts. Brandy completed the New York City Marathon and hopes another race may be on the horizon.


Diane Smith

Board Member/Marketing Committee Chair

Diane Smith is the Public Relations Manager for the Martz Parsons Marketing and Design. With a background in Public Relations and TV news, Smith has more than a decade of media experience under her belt. Smith graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Broadcasting from Arizona State University. She is the proud pet parent to three catsa nd even though her smart phone is usually within reach, when she is not officially "on the clock" she enjoys exercising, watching sports and spending time with friends and family.


Diana Rosine

Board Member

Diana Rosine was born in Port Huron, Michigan and lived most of her life in Michigan. She moved to Phoenix 7 years ago and has dedicated herself to helping other by becoming involved in the Kiwanis, Homeward Bound and Kaity's Way. Diana has a wonderful Fiance (Jack), two daughters and five grandchildren that live in Michigan and Ohio. She was recently awarded Kiwanina of the Year 2012-13 for her dedication to volunteerism and helping the children of the world.


Erika M. Lazenby

Board Member

Erika is the Director of Marketing Operations at Arizona State University-the largest public university in the country. She is responsible for the operations of university wide marketing efforts to more than 67,000 students in addition to faculty, parents and alumni.  Prior to joining Arizona State University, she held various positions in the Office of the Arizona Governor. Under the administration of Governors Jane D. Hull, Janet Napolitano and Janice K. Brewer, Ms. Lazenby directed the provision of services to Arizona constituents and navigated the complexities of Arizona politics. Ms. Lazenby’s personal interests include improving educational attainment, empowering women and strengthening the economy in Arizona. She holds a bachelor’s and master’s degree from Arizona State and is currently pursuing a doctoral degree in public policy and public administration focusing on the convergence points of politics and economics.


Victoria Spencer

Board Member/Finance Committee Chair

Victoria Spencer provides tax compliance and consultation services to a wide variety of private clients.  She specializes in international tax compliance matters, yet also has experience in corporate tax planning, audit defense, tax accounting, and domestic compliance.  Victoria has practiced in the tax field for more than 12 years, including work in both the public and private sectors.  Victoria is an attorney licensed to practice law in the State of Minnesota and licensed to practice as in-house counsel in the State of Arizona.  In addition to her tax work, she has significant experience in contract negotiations.Victoria is a Minnesota native and only recently became an Arizona resident in 2007. She enjoys running, road races, yoga and spending time with friends and family. She lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her partner Jim Crane, his two children, Kaitlyn and JT, and their two dogs, Fozzie and Shammi.


Shelly Ward,

Board Member/Education Committee Chair

Shelly Ward received a Masters degree in Criminal Justice from the University of Cincinnati, and a CCL in Forensic Investigation from Mesa Community College. After a thirteen-year career in IT, she decided to change direction and follow her calling. She became a Victim Advocate for the City of Mesa Prosecutors Office working directly with crime victims and acting as a liaison between prosecutors and victims to ensure that victims are empowered to exercise their rights in the criminal justice process. Shelly provides assistance to victims including domestic violence education, referrals and safety planning. Her goal is always to ensure that the people she works with are treated with kindness and respect throughout the process. Shelly is committed to educating teens about dating violence to enable them to make healthy relationship choices. Shelly actively collaborates with a number of community organizations such as the Avon Order of Protection Task Force and MESACan. Shelly is an active community volunteer donating time to organizations including Kaity’s Way, Maricopa County Juvenile Probation and The Arizona Museum of Natural History.


Michael DiBenedetto,

Board Member/Fundraising Committee Chair

Michael R. DiBenedetto is an Associate with Hallier & Lawrence PLC. Michael graduated from Chicago-Kent College of Law and concentrated his Illinois-based practice in both family and business law. After relocating to Arizona in 2010, he developed a multi-state practice assisting divorcing parties and business owners. Prior to practicing law, Michael refined his legal research skills as a LexisNexis Associate, and assisted others in developing their own project management and research skills. Additionally, Michael spent many hours in the law school’s Taypayer Clinic, helping people overcome federal and state tax problems. Michael’s background also includes starting up a handful of small businesses that allowed him to acquire a unique perspective of the common problems faced by business owners and formulate strategies for overcoming those difficulties. That perspective also provides Michael with a special understanding of the dilemmas that business owners deal with in divorce.


Wish List

6' Folding Tables

Folding Chairs

Laptops for presentations (refurbished okay)

Gas Cards

Reward points for hotel accommodations or airfare


Conference call speaker phone


Periodic use of a reliable conference line

 

Digital Video Camera


Color Laser Printer


Projector

Office Space


Office Supplies

( Paper, Blue pocket folders, labels, envelopes, stamps, display stands, etc)


Items to Raffle off or put in a Silent Auction to raise funds


Wireless clip on microphone & speakers


Sponsors for:
Spanish Brochure
Kaity's Way Bracelets
Parent Booklets




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What is on the Horizon

Be sure to check our website for additions and updates
www.kaitysway.org/events

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When
October 3, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 4, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Cactus Park
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 4, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Mexican Consulate
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 6, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 7, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Mesa, AZ

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When
October 8, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
Durango Juvenile Detention Center
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 9, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
ASU Downtown
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 9, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Stand and Serve Day at the Capital
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 9, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Boys & Girls Club
Scottsdale, AZ

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When
October 11, 2014

What
KW Relationship Violence Diversion Course Workshop

Where
LifeSkills High School
Phoenix, AZ
Must RSVP by 10/8/14

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When
October 13-16, 2014

What
Presentation x 10

Where
Tucson High School
Tucson, AZ

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When
October 17, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Betty Fairfax High School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 18, 2014

What
KW Relationship Violence Diversion Course Workshop

Where
Ocotillo Library
Phoeinx, AZ
Must RSVP by 10/15/14

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When
October 18, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
PYT Annual DV Event
Guadalupe, AZ

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When
October 21, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Carl Hayden High School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 23, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
AZDES Region I All Staff
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 23, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
Washington High School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 24, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Camelback High School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 25, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Consulmex Phx Prescott Health Fair 2014
Prescott, AZ

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When
October 25, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Girls Day Out - Mohave County
Bullhead City, AZ

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When
October 28, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
New Life Center
AZ

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When
October 29, 2014

What
Presentation

Where
South Mtn Community College
Phoenix, AZ

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When
October 30, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Alhambra High School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
November 1, 2014

What
Resource Table

Where
Seville West School
Phoenix, AZ

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When
November 3, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Phoenix, AZ

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When
November 4, 2014

What
Workshop

Where
Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Mesa, AZ

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When
November 8, 2014

What
KW Relationship Violence Diversion Course Workshop

Where
LifeSkills High School
Phoenix, AZ
Must RSVP by 11/5/24

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When
November 14, 2014

What
Workshop x3

Where
Juvenile Probration Teen Summit
Phoenix, AZ

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When
November 15, 2014

What
KW Relationship Violence Diversion Course Workshop

Where
Ocotillo Library
Phoenix, AZ



Kaity's Korner Staff

Miranda L. Birden
Creator & Editor

Bobbi Sudberry
Contributor & Editor

Susan Guinn-Lahm
Proof Reader

Please feel free to contact us if you should have any comments, questions or concerns regarding our newsletter.











Kaity's Way Contact
Mailing Address: 
P.O. Box 83494
Phoenix, AZ 85071
Email Address: 
kw08@kaitysway.org
Phone Number: 
(602) 740-2734
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