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       “ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel..”
Maya Angelou~
June 2014
Volume 18 Issue 2
Kaity's Korner 2
Jumping into June


Over the years we have heard of how our program affects people in various ways, such as:
  • A Woman who, after seeing a presentation, vowed to never blame the parents of the a child who has been a victim of violence.
  • Individual students shared their experiences with teen dating violence and let us know how much our program helped them focus on having healthy relationships.
  • A young women in foster care told us that she has seen our presentation several times and each times gains something new.  Since seeing the first presentation, she left an abusive relationship and has been good to this day.
Yet, there is one recent instance that sticks1000885708 with us because of the two fold impact. We had multiple presentations at a particular school and had no idea that there was a couple that had dated for a little over a year and recently ended the relationship just two weeks prior to our presenting at their school. The victim attended one of the first presentations we gave and apparently learned quite a bit.  The abuser in the relationship had approached the victim to talk about their relationship and the victim very simply said they would talk with them once they'd seen the presentation in health class.

The next day the abuser saw the presentation and took copious notes.  After the presentation, the abuser asked to speak to the presenter in private and handed the presenter the notes taken. On one side of the paper the abuser had taken notes regarding the pattern of abuse, the red flags and the elements of a healthy relationship. The other side of the paper contained information about what red flags the abuser felt they had violated, so to speak. The abuser identified with being an abuser and was sincerely accepting responsibility for their behavior. The abuser was ready to be held accountable. The abuser expressed feelings of regret and remorse and realized that some soul searching was in order.

Next, the abuser mentioned they wanted to continue the relationship with the victim and ask what to do. It was explained that the victim has the choice and respecting that is first and foremost. Then it was suggested the abuser consider apologizing for their behavior and let the victim know of their feelings, but again to understand it is the victim's choice. If the victim chooses to try again in the relationship the abuser needs to live, eat and breathe the P.E.A.C.E.  Rights and Responsibilities at all times in the relationship. Not only because the victim is aware of them but because it is the right thing to do for the abusers own well being. Now, if the victim chooses to not take part in the relationship, the abuser then has a duty to respect the victim's decision and move on without incident. The abuser seemed to sincerely understand their options and took a brochure as well as a copy of the P.EA.C.E. Rights and Responsibilities.  


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        Coming and Going...

1001112343We would just like to take a moment to give a fond farewell to our 2014 Spring Interns. They served us and the community well. We greatly appreciate their dedication and wish them the very best in their future endeavors.

Diana Pardo    Brian Smith    Morgan Pinski   

                         Chelsea Burton    Arielle Cohen

We would also like to thank Ariella Nahom for her contribution to the Kaity's Way Board as the Secretary and Governance Committee Chair. She came in, set some goals and accomplish them she did. Ariella is truly and exceptional person and Kaity's Way is very fortunate to have had her serve a term on our board. She has assured us that even though she is no longer on the board, she intends to still volunteer and help us in any way she can.

Now for those newly joining us:

On the Board we have.......
Mrs. Shelly Ward......
Shelly WardShelly Ward received a Masters degree in Criminal Justice from the University of Cincinnati, and a CCL in Forensic Investigation from Mesa Community College. After a thirteen-year career in IT, she decided to change direction and follow her calling. She became a Victim Advocate for the City of Mesa Prosecutors Office working directly with crime victims and acting as a liaison between prosecutors and victims to ensure that victims are empowered to exercise their rights in the criminal justice process. Shelly provides assistance to victims including domestic violence education, referrals and safety planning. Her goal is always to ensure that the people she works with are treated with kindness and respect throughout the process. Shelly is committed to educating teens about dating violence to enable them to make healthy relationship choices. Shelly actively collaborates with a number of community organizations such as the Avon Order of Protection Task Force and MESACan. Shelly is an active community volunteer donating time to organizations including Kaity’s Way, Maricopa County Juvenile Probation and The Arizona Museum of Natural History.

In addition we have new volunteers who have signed on to help with the program as a whole.....

  • Kendall West - Phoenix
  • Patricia Guzman - Tolleson
  • Christian Maurin - Litchfield Park
  • Tiffany Kell - Phoenix
  • Raguel Martinez - Scottsdale
  • Carolina Zamarron - Chandler
  • Ingrid Camargo - Eloy
  • Patrick Jones - Eloy
  • Teliyah Walls - Eloy
  • Algie Mitchell - Eloy
  • Mandi Lopez - Eloy
  • Samantha Alvarado - Eloy
  • Rosio Rosas - Eloy
  • Shannon McCormick - Eloy
  • Linda James - Picacho
But that is not all.... we have 21 more that have thrown their name in the hat on to help with the concession stands at the University of Phoenix Stadium for the Arizona Cardinals season and other events held at the stadium. Once they have completed training and processing we will share their names.

Understanding Verbal Abuse                     (Part 1 of 4)

by Angela Lambert 

Abuse can affect the lives of people regardless of age, gender or social status. Although people most often associate abuse with physical violence, it can come in many different forms including verbal abuse. Because of the nature of verbal abuse, its damaging effects are often underestimated and misunderstood. This can be a problem for people who are the victims of it. In addition, it can make it difficult for people who suspect that a friend or loved one is being verbally abused. To help combat verbal bullying it is important to educate people and raise awareness.

What is Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse is a type of emotional abuse in which a person uses words, body language, or behavior to cause emotional pain or distress to another person. Although it is not physical in nature and does not leave visible bruises, it is just as damaging and can leave an individual with emotional scars and trauma. With verbal abuse, the abuser uses words as a way to exert control and dominance over the victim. It is a behavior that is often thought of in terms of domestic violence; however, it can occur in places of work, school, etc. Spouses, teachers, employers, girlfriends, boyfriends, or friends can be verbally abusive. When it comes to relationships, it is often a precursor to physical violence.

To read the entire article click on this link


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Kaity's Way is always looking for dedicated volunteers to help with various projects and events throughout the year. You can fill out and submit a volunteer application on line by clicking on the following link Volunteer Application.


Ideas on how you can help.......


Help us Bring Awareness


Are you a member of a PTA, PTO, PTSO or any group or organization that involves the welfare of children? If so, consider suggesting Kaity's Way speak at one of the meetings to bring awareness to Teen Dating Violence as well as the need for Education in our schools.


Are you on Facebook or Twitter? Friend or follow us and when you see a posting or tweet from us SHARE for all of your friends.

Talk about us to anyone and everyone. If you would like brochures to have on hand, please let us know and we will get some to you.



Beginning August 1, 2013 Kaity's Way volunteers, participants and supporters can enroll their Fry’s V.I.P . Cards online at their secure website . Starting September 1, 2013, every time an enrolled participant shops at Fry’s using his or her registered Fry’s V.I.P. Card, Kaity's Way will earn rewards.

How cool and easy is that!?!

Follow the instructions below to get started.......
PLEASE NOTE: Before you can link your Fry’s V.I.P card to
Kaity's Way, you must have an email address.

STEP 1: Creating an Online Fry’s Account
 **NOTE: If you already have an online Fry’s account, skip to #2
  • Go to
  • Select ‘Create an Account’.
  • Under Sign-In information, enter your email and create a password. (Write down your email & password—will need it in step 2)
  • Select ‘Use Card Number’. *Enter your Fry’s V.I.P Card Number, last name and postal code.
  • Under ‘Select Your Preferred Store’ enter your postal code.
  • Select ‘Find Stores’.
  • Choose your store then select ‘Create Account’. *You will then be prompted to check your email for a confirmation email. Click the hyperlink in your email to finish creating your Online Fry’s Account. Continue to step #2 to register for the Fry’s Community Rewards Program of your choice.

STEP 2: Register for the Fry’s Community Rewards Program
  • Go to
  • Select ‘Sign-In’.
  • Enter your email and password then select ‘sign in’. (This will be the email and password you created in step 1)
  • Select ‘My Account then select ‘Account Settings’ from drop down menu.
  • Click ‘edit’ under Community Rewards. If prompted, enter personal information.
  • Under Find Your Organization: Enter the NPO number 80082 or name of organization Kaity's Way then select ‘search’.
  • Under Select Your Organization: Select box next to your organization
  • Then select ‘save changes’.
  • If you have registered correctly, you should now see your organization information listed under ‘Community Rewards’ on your Account Summary page.

Another opportunity and one of the simplest ways to raise funds for Kaity's Way only takes the stroke of a key. Just start using Yahoo! powered as your search engine, select Kaity's Way and they'll donate a penny to Kaity's Way every time you do a search! They also have several other online opportunities to raise money for Kaity's Way by shopping, playing games, participating in surveys, booking online travel. For each transaction a percentage of the purchase will go to Kaity's Way

The web site is You can also read about GoodSearch in the NY Times, Oprah Magazine, CNN, ABC News and the Wall Street Journal.

Have a Home Party to raise funds for Kaity's Way. Many businesses, such as, True North Gold, Tupperware, Beauticontrol, Pampered Chef, CandleLite, Miche Bag and Cookie Lee have programs to fund raise for non-profit organizations. This is a fun way to get together with your friends and support a great cause.  

Conduct a used cell phone drive or recycle used ink cartridges from printers or copiers at your place of employment or with your friends and family. If interested give us a call and we will get you the supplies you need to set up.

 Amazon gives customers the option to select a non profit to receive .5% of any purchase upon checkout. At You can select Kaity's Way and shop away.

If you work for one of the following businesses you can choose to donate straight out your paycheck to Kaity's Way?
  • APS dc 59768
  • Salt River Corporation
  • State of Arizona
  • American Express
For every dollar donated to Kaity's Way a member of the community receives all the literature and data needed to understand the issue of teen dating violence and the importance of healthy relationships. So if you work for either one of these companies or know someone who does, please consider Kaity's Way the next time open enrollment comes around.

Kaity's Way Board Members


Susan Guinn-Lahm, MA, CRC, LPC

Past Board Chair

Susan is a native of Ajo, AZ where she works as the Lead Behavioral Health Clinician at Desert Senita Community Health Center (DSCHC).  Susan provides general mental health counseling services, specializing in patients behavioral changes to compliment their medical treatment.


KellyAnn Bonnell

Board Chair

KellyAnn is a modern renaissance woman. She is a published author, an accomplished costume designer and is considered an expert in arts education. She is currently the Education & Outreach Director for Infinite Spectrum Productions where she oversees educational and mission driven projects for the company. She is listed on the Consultant Roster for the Arizona Commission on the Arts and was a 2011 nominee for the Arizona Governor's Arts Awards in Arts Education.

Ric Sudberry

Board Treasurer

Ric is the father of five children and the PauPau to six grandchildren. He served six years in the US Air Force as a Medical Technician.  Ric currently works full time as a Department Supervisor at Home Depot in Phoenix, AZ. He enjoys spending time with his family, especially the grandchildren, reading, watching football (Go Steelers!) and traveling.


Brandy Aguilar

Board Member

Brandy loves to tell stories. She is the Executive Producer/Multimedia Journalist for Health2Fit television show and website. Brandy has more than 15 years of newsroom experience. She covers all kinds of stories from weight loss, and sports health to the latest medical breakthroughs in Arizona and around the country. Brandy earned her degree in broadcast journalism from the Walter Cronkite School of Journalism and Mass Communication at Arizona State University. When not busy telling stories, she spends time with her family, travels, hikes, plays tennis and loves going to sporting events/concerts. Brandy completed the New York City Marathon and hopes another race may be on the horizon.

Diane Smith

Board Member/Marketing Committee Chair

Diane Smith is the Public Relations Manager for the Martz Agendy. With a background in Public Relations and TV news, Smith has more than a decade of media experience under her belt. Smith graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Broadcasting from Arizona State University. She is the proud pet parent to three catsa nd even though her smart phone is usually within reach, when she is not officially "on the clock" she enjoys exercising, watching sports and spending time with friends and family.

Diana Rosine

Board Member

Diana Rosine was born in Port Huron, Michigan and lived most of her life in Michigan. She moved to Phoenix 7 years ago and has dedicated herself to helping other by becoming involved in the Kiwanis, Homeward Bound and Kaity's Way. Diana has a wonderful Fiance (Jack), two daughters and five grandchildren that live in Michigan and Ohio. She was recently awarded Kiwanina of the Year 2012-13 for her dedication to volunteerism and helping the children of the world.

Erika M. Lazenby

Board Member

Erika is the Director of Marketing Operations at Arizona State University-the largest public university in the country. She is responsible for the operations of university wide marketing efforts to more than 67,000 students in addition to faculty, parents and alumni.  Prior to joining Arizona State University, she held various positions in the Office of the Arizona Governor. Under the administration of Governors Jane D. Hull, Janet Napolitano and Janice K. Brewer, Ms. Lazenby directed the provision of services to Arizona constituents and navigated the complexities of Arizona politics. Ms. Lazenby’s personal interests include improving educational attainment, empowering women and strengthening the economy in Arizona. She holds a bachelor’s and master’s degree from Arizona State and is currently pursuing a doctoral degree in public policy and public administration focusing on the convergence points of politics and economics.

Victoria Spencer

Board Member/Finance Committee Chair
Victoria is the Director of Tax Services at KeatsConnelly, the largest cross-border wealth management firm in North America that specializes in helping Canadians and Americans realize their dreams of a cross-border lifestyle. Victoria assists clients with tax planning and tax preparation of their US and Canadian tax returns. She has been working in the tax and legal services industry since 2002. Victoria is a Minnesota native and only recently became an Arizona resident in 2007. She enjoys running, road races, yoga and spending time with friends and family. She lives in Scottsdale, Arizona with her partner Jim Crane, his two children, Kaitlyn and JT, and their two dogs, Fozzie and Shammi..



All applications must be post marked by
June 1, 2014
to be accepted for consideration.

Thanks to two donors, who have asked to remain anonymous, we are doing it again this year.  With the donations, KW is able to give high school seniors or recent graduates who are attending or planning to attend a Maricopa Community College and go into a public service position, the opportunity to apply for our $700 Kaity's Way BB Scholarship. Criteria and application can be located by clicking on the link.
The close date for this scholarship is June 1, 2014.

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Everyone who has contributed to Kaity's Way in one way or another. Some contribute money, others with time and yet others with items for use or to raise funds. No matter how you look at it, all contributions received allows us to promote healthy relationships and bring awareness to teen dating violence through:
  • Presentations
  • Resource Tables
  • Literature
  • Social Media
  • Kaity's Korner
Without this help we would not have been able to reach the vast amount of people that we have thus far. Including that young couple mentioned to the left.

Our success is the communities success and we would not be able to do all that we have done through Kaity's Way without YOU!

Wish List

6' Folding Table

Folding Chairs

Laptops for presentations (refurbished okay)

Gas Cards

Reward points for hotel accommodations or airfare

Conference call speaker phone

Periodic use of a reliable conference line


Digital Video Camera

Color Laser Printer

Venues to hold Public Presentations of Kaity's Story

Office Space

Office Supplies

( Paper, Blue pocket folders, labels, envelopes, stamps, display stands, etc)

Items to Raffle off or put in a Silent Auction to raise funds

Wireless clip on microphone & speakers

Sponsors for:
Spanish Brochure
Kaity's Way Bracelets
Parent Booklets

Many Thanks to our.....

Volunteers and Interns alike are who allow us to reach out as far as we do. Without them we would not be able to participate in multiple events in one day. Without them we would have to move at a much slower pace and our ability to reach people would be limited. Their passion and dedication is so greatly appreciated and we just hope that all they do for their community comes back to them through the enrichment of their lives.


  • Carolyn Bunnitt     
  • Robin Todd       
  • Donna McClung     
  • Annie Young   
  • Miranda Birden
  • Maria Spry
  • Sharon Montijo
  • Nathan Montijo
  • Andy Montijo
  • Stephen Montijo
  • Aubry Harper
  • Bailey Harper
  • Kenny Lahm 
  • Andrea Peterson


Intern:  Sobira Pakhlavonova

Then there are our Board Members that make sure things are happening behind the scenes lending us their expertise and time.....

What is on the Horizon

Be sure to check our website for additions and updates


June 4, 2014


Fresh Start Women's Foundation - Girls Thrive
Phoenix, AZ

June 9, 2014


Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Phoenix, AZ

June 10, 2014

Work Shop

Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Mesa, AZ


June 12, 2014

Media Appearance

Morning Scramble

May 8, 2014


Summitt High School
Apache Junction, AZ

June 18, 2014


Dignity Diversion
Phoenix, AZ

June 20, 2014


Black Canyon School/Girl Scouts
Phoenix, AZ

June 28, 2014

Resource Table

Maryvale Unite Resource Fair
Phoenix, AZ

July 5, 2014

Step Against Teen Dating Violence

Black Canyon Conference Center Phoenix, AZ

July 14, 2014


Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Phoenix, AZ

July 15, 2014


Fresh Start Women's Foundation
Mesa, AZ


Great People doing Wonderful Things!

Kiwanis Club
Want to help children all over the world? If so, check out your local Kiwanis Club. 

The Arrowhead Kiwanis Club, Peoria, Arizona is a loyal and consistent supporter of Kaity's Way.

We are very Grateful to them and everything they do!

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Need a Vacation or just get away for a few days? 

is the place to go. This new state of the art resort in beautiful Scottsdale, Arizona has something for everyone. Click on the link above to check out the wonderful amenities and make your reservation. 

Now is a Great time to visit Arizona. 

Be sure to let them know Kaity's Way sent you!

   Feel the Sting!

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More Great People doing Great Things!

Strong supporters of
Kaity's Way
Look for our table at the Home Games!

Kaity's Korner Staff

Miranda L. Birden
Creator & Editor

Bobbi Sudberry
Contributor & Editor

Please feel free to contact us if you should have any comments, questions or concerns regarding out newsletter.

Kaity's Way Contact
Mailing Address: 
P.O. Box 83494
Phoenix, AZ 85071
Email Address:
Phone Number: 
(602) 740-2734
Tax ID #26-3442791

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